Most women believe that direct stimulation of the naked tip of the clit is too sensitive. My girlfriend said the same thing.

When she masturbates, she goes in a circular motion. She also prefers that I touch her clit in the same manner. She does not like the naked tip of the clit to be touched, as it is “too much.” She prefers the hood to be rubbed over the clit, providing a “pushing” pressure onto the clit.

My friend lent me a video he ordered from the web site: Welcomed.com. The guy in the video certainly seems to know what he is doing. He showed how you must directly touch the naked tip of the clit at its one o’clock position (as looking AT the clit) with the tip of the index finger. In the video he demonstrated on a woman. He rubbed her for about 10 minutes. All the time she was orgasmic, but she never ‘came.’

One night I told my girlfriend about what I learned in the video and I showed her the web site. I told her that the guy said that “Any clitoris can be touched, when touched right.” I said to her “I want to try an experiment.” She said “OK! But I’m a little skeptical as in the past direct stimulation has been too powerful.”

Simple steps to a new kind of Orgasm

Just as in the video, I had her lie on her back. I sat to her left side and placed my left arm under her left leg with my hand under her butt with my thumb pressing on her perineum (between her vagina and her anus.)

The video said this makes her feel secure and anchors the clitoris. My girlfriend agreed with that.

Use lubrication

The video said to use a lot of lubrication because you must avoid micro scratches. I used Astro Glide, nothing else works nearly as well.

Just as in the video, I slid the tip of my right index finger up onto her clitoris. I smeared the lubrication onto her clit and then began to rub the one o’clock position of the naked bulb of the clit.

The rubbing is to be done with the tip of the index finger pointing straight at the clit. The strokes are about one half inch and at a frequency of about 1 or 2 strokes a second. The strokes are to be radial, as if along the minute hand at five minutes past the hour.

She immediately responded favorably!

She said “I LIKE THIS experiment.” I tried the 11 o’clock position and asked her if that was any different. She said that the one o’clock position was better. I then tried the six o’clock position, and again she said that the one o’clock position was better. So I went back to that. I don’t know why the one o’clock position is better, and the guy in the video didn’t explain it.

Felt so good she didn’t want to Orgasm!

I continued. Before long, she said “This feels SO good that I don’t WANT to come!” I instructed her to continue to relax totally. She said she was right on the edge. She was in continuous total ecstasy.

This continued for about 30 minutes. Then she said that the pleasure was so intense that she couldn’t take it any more and she wanted to come. I told her the magic words, and she did.

We talked about it and she said

“The orgasm was different than any before. The sensation was different. It was like my clitoris was being pulled! It was like I had a penis and it was getting pulled. It is totally unlike the usual rubbing where there is pressure ONTO the clitoris. This was different.”

The next day she said “Every time I think about it, I get really horny. It’s like when you first learn how to masturbate, you want to keep doing it. I’ve been craving it all day, I’m walking around with a clitoris hard on!”

Since that day, this has become my #1 technique for giving women mind-blowing clitoral orgasms.  I go into depth on all the different ways I use it in my program on how to Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms, including orgasm on command and extended orgasms to mention a few.

Give it a try tonight with your woman.  Tell me how it works in the comments below or ask me any questions.  I do answer them.

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When it comes to teaching men about women and sex, one of the most common questions I get is about women having all the power in relationships.  This video clip from a seminar I held in San Francisco answers the question “do women have all the power?”

If you have any questions, put them in the comments below.

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Time magazine recently ran an article on a pill for Female Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. First I will paraphrase the article, and then I will share my comments.Viagra for women

Female Sexual Dysfunction: Myth or Malady?

Since the FDA approved Viagra for sexual dysfunction in men, drug companies have been searching for a drug to cure loss of libido in women. This most commonly diagnosed female sexual dysfunction known is referred to by doctors as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD).

Drug makers see the prospect of a multibillion-dollar blockbuster that could be even bigger than Viagra and its competitors combined.

A German pharmaceutical company recently announced that it had found a drug that works. “We saw an increase in sexually satisfying events, an increase in desire and a decrease in distress.”

Testosterone has been successfully used to increase libido in women with low testosterone.

Some psychologists say HSDD is a made up disorder.

Judy Norsigian, director of a women’s health advocacy, thinks the diagnosis of HSDD unnecessarily medicates women’s sexual lives. “Attempting to treat low libido with a pill ignores the fact that many women’s level of desire is deeply affected by everyday life stress and interpersonal relationships.”

Debby Herbenick, of the Kinsey Institute, raises an interesting question: “What we really have is a group of women who wonder why they don’t desire their long-term partner the way they used to. What happens if you suddenly do have desire, but it’s not for the person you hoped?”

Now for my comments:

It is wonderful that testosterone replacement therapy is available to women. In the book, “The Female Brain”, one female patient had accidentally been taking twice the prescribed dosage and had to masturbate hourly. And it would be wonderful if there could be a magic little pink pill for women with normal testosterone.

But the situations I see in my clients is more like the last two comments in the article. First of all, stress is a killer of libido in women. But more interestingly, women who lose all interest in sex with their husband, instantly and miraculously become very excited by the man they cheat with. In fact, they become horny as hell and highly orgasmic.

It’s the classic bad boy story that I have seen a thousand times over the past 17 years…

The bored married woman thinks there is something chemically wrong with her because she no longer has any sexual desire for her husband. The real problem is that her husband is a lame lover! Then a predatory bad boy notices her discontent. He senses her subconscious signals, betraying her, exposing her desire for romantic stimulation. He approaches like a charming gentleman, fulfilling her need to feel beautiful and desired, and hooks her in. She becomes enthralled in her new sense of feeling alive. She wants more, he gives more, she gives more. She surrenders and experiences unbridled passion. Then she is addicted.

No pill required.

However, she is going to need anti-depressants when she finds out the charming gentleman is nothing but a lying cheating jerk.

Take the lesson from the bad boys:
They know how to ignite a woman. Do what they do right.
But they don’t know how to keep a woman. Don’t make the mistakes they can’t help but make.

You can be far more powerful than any bad boy, or even any magic pill. Discover how in my book, “The Secrets of Female Sexuality”

Secrets of Female Sexuality

Give women incredible pleasure,

David Shade

The Time magazine article is here:

http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1939884,00.html

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