I had a crush on a guy in college. Before I ever saw him, a friend of mine had told me about him. She said when she returned from an away game with the team (she did stats), the coach asked if one of the guys would oblige by walking her to her dorm. It was after dark, and there had been a few “attacks” on women recently, so everyone was taking precautions. She said that he (let’s call him “Ed”) jumped up immediately and volunteered. Now, my friend was very overweight, back in the 1980s when almost no one was overweight. She had a thyroid condition or something. Most guys wouldn’t want to be seen walking across campus with the fat girl, let’s face it. “Ed” was completely unselfishly kind, friendly and thoughtful. At this point, I had never even seen him. My friend gushed about how nice he was. I thought “hmmm…” I asked her to point him out to me at the next game. She did. The moment I first laid eyes on “Ed” I instantly experienced what I can only describe as “love at first sight.” :) I still think about him to this day. 25 years have passed, but he’s still on a pedestal! I guess I have a bad case of “one-itis”. LOL

Do you want to be the dorky/desperate guy a woman wants to forget (and easily forgets), or the one who becomes the ideal vision of a man that no other man could ever measure up to? The man she won’t forget for as long as she lives?

That’s power, guys. :)

Larry

On the flip side, no high-self esteem woman will play door mat to a man. (And no man worth being with would want a woman like that.)

Both women and men want and appreciate a challenge. It is stimulating for both sexes. One way to do accomplish this is to know what you want, as well as what you do NOT want in a relationship (and from life, as well) and do NOT ever settle for second best.

Men also want women who can successfully navigate between good girl/bad girl at the right time. The way to earn a woman who will lower her guard with you and to be fully expressive…… letting her see ALLof her sides, is to TRULY and demonstratably care for her. “Treating her well” has to come from the heart.

When the woman in your life KNOWS that she is valued, there is precious little she won’t give to you in return. Good women DO give back to men who are good to them. (If you find yourself with a ‘taker’, dump her for Heaven’s sake, and ask yourself how you attracted that scenario into your life.)

I’ve known men who have found the rare woman who satisfies them on many different levels blow it big time by behaving like an A-Hole and ‘trying to gather all of the power’ in the relationship. I had no sympathy for them when the ladies left, cos they knew fully well what they were capable of bringing to the table, and didn’t settle for crumbs. (Do NOT be that man.)

Thank you David, this was very valuable. And I do appreciate the comments from the men, too. Was pleased to see how many of you are respectful towards women.