Today we have emails from two very frustrated women…
EMAIL from Katie:
My problem is that I have been with my partner for 5
years and I am so attracted to him sexually, he has
everything I need except for a few things and I do have
quite a high sex drive considering.I have tried to spice up our sex life by introducing
some kind of dirty talk and games through txting but to
no avail. He always says later or tomorrow and it just
never happens. I have tried finding out what he likes,
his fantasies (which is something that is impossible for
me to let him go off and do) I’ve tried pressuring him
about it, Ive tried not pressuring him about it, I’ve
tried to just get on with it and accept how our sex life
is but it all just leads to frustration.And when it comes down to sex in general also, every
time I initiate anything, he refuses… yet says he
likes it when I get things moving… even though we
literally never do anything unless he says so which is
utterly frustrating for me. Again its always ‘later’ or
‘I’m tired’ or when such and such is/isn’t happening.I have been trying for 4 of our 4 and a half years
sexual relationship to get him to open up, to try the
dirty talk or txt, to share what he likes and dislikes.
I have tried getting him to instruct me so that I know
he is getting what he wants from our sex life, toys,
sexy outfits, books! I feel like I have tried everything
but he just refuses (more annoyingly, he just says
‘later’ meaning never pr lets me waste my money on these
things and never ever plans on using them) and I feel
like I am just at the end of my rope and as much as I
love him and am attracted to him, I don’t trust that I
will turn down an offer from elsewhere if I get one. He
just makes me feel like I am unattractive and not good
enough but swears blind that I am all he wants.I’m so confused/frustrated, is there anything else I
can try?
My Comments:
Katie, you’re not going to like this, but it is
reality. Tell him to buy my programs and implement
them. If he doesn’t, dump his ass.
EMAIL from Christina:
Hi David,
My name is Christina. I’m desperate for your advice.
Please help me if you can.I’ve written to you before asking for pointers on how
I can please my boyfriend.In the message I told you that I’ve never orgasmed
before, not even with him, but that I wasn’t so
concerned with that as much as his pleasure.Now… I’m more concerned about my own. I read your
newsletters religiously and after every one I read I’m
so jealous of all of these women who have these amazing
orgasms that it almost brings me to tears.Well now it has.
I thought I’d convinced him to order your book. But
he hasn’t. I try not to bring up the fact that I never
orgasm to him because I don’t want him to feel worse
than he already does for not being capable.He wants to give me orgasms, he really does, but he
keeps saying (when I do bring it up) that it’s something
I have to do.He asks me if something happened in my childhood that
would prevent me from letting go with him, since
sometimes I say in bed, “I can’t” and push him away.First of all nothing happened in my childhood that
prevent this. No rape. Nothing.Secondly I’ve said that in the past because yes, the
feeling was so intense I felt like I couldn’t take it.
Other times it’s just because what he’s doing kinda
hurts or just doesn’t feel good at all. But the past
several times we’ve had sex I’ve not stopped him at all.
Trying to ‘let go’ and nothing has happened. I don’t
know what to do anymore.I don’t know how to get him to buy your book. I’ve
forwarded your newsletters to him. I’ve asked him a few
times too.I DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO.
He thinks it’s something that I have to do, like I
said. He asks me what he needs to do. I can’t even give
myself an orgasm, how am I supposed to show him how to
do it?Our sex, other than my not having an orgasm, is
great. We talk dirty in bed, share our kinky fantasies,
have sexy text messages, but I’m never satisfied in the
end.Is there any advice you have for me? I’m desperate.
He’s about to propose and I’m scared that I will be
stuck with never having one. Please help if you can.Thank you.
My Comments:
If women could just do it themselves, they would.
Christina’s boyfriend needs to order my programs. If
her boyfriend refuses, Christina needs to get a new
boyfriend who will.
Ladies, don’t end up like these two women. Tell
your man to get my programs “or else”. Period.
Start with “The Secrets of Female Sexuality“. This
will tell him what you would want to tell him, but
can’t.
And get “Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms” which
will teach him how to give you want you want, including
everything he needs to know about dirty talk.
Give women incredible pleasure,
David Shade
