I loved Nancy Friday’s book “My Secret Garden”. It was one of the books that helped me in my transformation.
Today there was a recent post on the San Fransicso Lair board about that book. Here is some of the post and my reply.
>Just read the book “My Secret Garden.”
>That book is fabulous for helping you
>realize how wide, varied, and
>complex female sexual fantasies are.
>Just goes to show that regular women
>have some extremely “WILD” fantasies,
>beyond what I ever thought.
>Just reinforces the belief that their
>sexual desire is just as robust as ours
They are at least as “horny” as men, even more so when ovulating. But the important thing to take from that is that women are far more “cerebrally sensual” than men. So, play to her sensual mind.
>it really showed how big of an issue
>dominance and submission can be for
>getting a womans juices going.
So very very true. It is extremely arousing for a woman. It makes her feel desired and wanted, and she doesn’t have to take responsibility for being ruthlessly sexual. It just all fits together. And, it is one of the the most effective ways to play to her sensual mind.
>you can look deeper into a womans
>sexual soul and sometimes call out
>their darker fantasies and be able
>to reassure her that its totally normal.
And this is exactly what women crave. She cannot do it herself. She cannot initiate it (because it would not be “feminine” to initiate). But she CRAVES it. It’s what she dreams about. It’s what she masturbates to. Women WANT their inner slut to be brought to life. There is a tremendous amount of power in that, and the intelligent lover knows that, which is why he is so powerful.
>I think it’s more inner game
And that’s where it’s all at. Have the correct mindset and understanding that women love to be sexual, and things begin to progress so much easier.
This will help you to change your frame from “trying to get sex” to simply “obliging her needs.”
Give women incredible pleasure,
David Shade
