It’s not enough to just give women orgasms…
Question from Tony:
I recently started dating this girl, and ever since the first time we had sex, she has 3 or 4 intense orgasms every time.
Do you think she is satisfied and happy, or should I be trying to give her more pleasure, like asking her what she likes, if she likes it this way or that way?
My Comments:
It is good that she is having multiple intense orgasms. Some women arrive on the scene with the ability to easily orgasm vaginally.
With a woman like that, you start off on a much higher rung on the ladder.
I would be willing to bet that she is very comfortable with her sexuality. And a woman like that would require a man who is also very comfortable with her sexuality.
But to answer your question, is she satisfied and happy…
If she is, it’s not because of anything special you are doing.
And it’s not because she is wildly crazy about you and has become highly responsive to you. It takes time for a woman to become genuinely wildly crazy about her man and highly responsive to him. At least for the high quality high self-esteem women.
What concerns me is that you contemplate trying to make it better by asking her if she likes it this way or that way. That does not sound like a man who is leading!
That sounds like a man offering a knife and fork to a lion devouring a carcass. It will only distract.
Sure it is good to ask for feedback, that is a good thing, but only in the context of leading.
then she could just be masturbating on your bone…
You’re email doesn’t share much, so it’s hard to tell, but hopefully that’s not the case in your situation.
But to prevent her attention from being diverted by the next guy to come along, you need to make yourself part of the equation.
To make her sexuality even more exciting, as a result of tapping into the massive amount of sexual potential in her, you need to ingrain yourself as a critical component of her sexuality.
It is not enough to give women orgasms. The idea is that you have a lot to say about when, and how often, and how hard, and how long she orgasms!
her sexuality is brought to life.
This goes back to a truism about women…
Women love sex and want exciting sex! But they don’t want it by just masturbating on a bone. At least the high quality high self-esteem ones. They respond to having a man that they are wildly crazy about, and are highly responsive to, that they can SURRENDER to and SHARE exciting sex with.
And another truism about women…
Women are sexually submissive creatures (most women, most of the time.) And their idea of “exciting” is being lead through an experience. By being led, she is free of all responsibility, and thus has a license to be ruthlessly sexual.
And in this context, you can lead her into more exciting and taboo activity. Things that open her up even more to you. Things that make her wildly crazy about YOU.
But you’re not going to get there so long as she is just having orgasms in the same way, frequency, and intensity as she has with all the other guys.
You would benefit from my Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms course, where I discuss this at length, with many specific examples of exactly how to do it.
Give women incredible pleasure,
David Shade
