Live recording from Tampa Florida in March 2008. The full recording is part of a new advanced program called the Bring Out Her Inner Slut System.
I introduce a very different way of thinking about sex with your woman. When you do this, she will go freaking nuts over you! It’s one of the secrets to sexual power with women.
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On Twitter, you wrote “Men, see the hours before sex as foreplay. Feeling cherished and emotionally connected is an aphrodisiac for women. Romance is powerful!” If I follow you your thinking correctly… if romance sexually stimulates women, then romance is sex! What do you think about that? How might men use romance / emotional closeness to sexually stimulate their women?
Hi John,
You are quite correct! Romance is a socially acceptable framework for sex. And women love romance, it's why romance novels are one of the top selling categories of books. A Masterful Lover will always leverage romance. I like to say romance lubricates the slide to sex.
And, romance is a form of “Mental Foreplay”. Women get excited about what will happen later as they are being romanced because it fits their fantasies. As long as you are the confident man who leads her through the experience.
And emotional closeness is another key point. If you want to woman to really be sexually wild, she needs to feel an emotional bond with her man. For many men, this is harder than romance, as it means they must be emotionally available and vulnerable. And we men are trained since childhood to do the opposite.
The recording is good, but it's not new to me. I always try to extend the foreplay as long as possible. I personaly like to use the motto that “the lady comes first.” It can be taken two ways and I wink when I say it, I also tell women they look deliscious, again with a wink. I strongly beleive in using sexually suggestive language when I think it will help.
Enjoyed your video,
can not wait for the weekend to try it….
Hi Louis,
Be sure to report back. I love to hear success stories!
Hello Art,
You are a rare man who 'gets it'. (also can be taken two ways).
For you, I recommend my really advanced programs. Have you ever tried orgasm on command? Given her an orgasm without touching her? Made her orgasm last for up to an hour?
All these things are possible (and more), once you understand the basics of female sexuality and giving women pleasure.
I wanted to give you guys another viewpoint on women and emotion/romance and sex. There are a few of us out here who do not equate emotion to sex. There are those of use who can handle (and often prefer) sex without romance and the BS guys use to get laid. Some times, sex is just sex and that's ok. I actually feel less inhibited if my “parnter” and I can come out and say this is just sex - let's have fun. Some guys are too emotional and needy and it can be a turn off.
Hi David! Just stopping by for a listen and to say I love it!
@JohnMichaelCannon Yes, romance is sex! YAY! Gold star, LOL!
@Art Good onya for getting it.
@Abby There is a world of difference between sex with emotional attachment and men (or women) who are emotional and needy. Clingy Creampuff Casper Milquetoasts are not the kind of men David is talking about or to.
I am a woman who proudly chooses sex with emotion over any other kind of sex because it is far more satisfying to me. I choose to share that emotion with a strong, confident, dominant man who will treat me like the princess I am in public and do what needs to be done in the bedroom.
Because I like a man to take charge in the bedroom, I require that emotional bond. Trust is the key to getting my freak on, or to paraphrase David, pulling my inner slut out of storage. *grins*
140 pages packed full of all the forbidden SECRETS of Female Sexuality
but in the free preview the table of contents is only 64 pages
Irefer to The Secrets of Female Sexuality
The “Secrets Of Female Sexuality” is 140 pages. The preview is only a section of the book.
Dear God, I want my boyfriend to learn this stuff. I am such a sexual person, and he's just not doing it for me but I do think he's an amazing person. How can I bring it up with him and nudge him in the direction of this website & get him to learn from you without hurting his feelings and making him feel inadequate? I've never faked an orgasm so I'm pretty sure he knows things aren't going as well as they could be, but still, a lot of people would take offense to an instruction manual. But how would anyone learn without it? Any thoughts on this?
Lisa,
You are a woman, and thus you are a sexual person. A lot of women wish their man would “do it for them”. I know you care about him, and don't want to bruise his ego, but also you want him to learn to do the things to you that my clients do to their women.
Here's what you do. Say to him, “Honey, I care about you, I enjoy our intimacy. In fact, I enjoy our intimacy so much that I want us to enjoy it even more. I heard about this website which teaches couples how to have more fulfilling intimacy. Let's read more about it.”
One of two things are going to happen: 1) he will get my programs and will start giving you wild screaming vaginal orgasms in intercourse, or 2) he will refuse to do anything, and he will continue to be the only one having orgasms in intercourse.
If he refuses, then you have a decision to make. If he gets my programs, then you will be one very happy woman.
Women tell me that they will not get into a relationship with a man who would not study my programs. They call it “The David Shade clause”.
David
I agree with NookieNotes. I want and need a emotional connection with the man I chose to share intimatcy with. Emotion and love bring a deeper connection and a bond of trust. If I can't trust a man, I'm certainly not going to let loose in the bedroom, I won't even be in the bedroom with him. Yes, sex is just sex sometimes, however, a deep emotional connection, romance and a confidant, masterful man is amazing and wonderful. My man has always been great and now with David's insight it's incredible.
all the other blogs are good but this guy sounds like a dumbass… reading a story to her… is sex
I forgot to tell you, my girlfriend and I are having intercourse in so many different positions, some that I've never done before. This woman is a sexual animal due in part because of the information I have learned about her as well as myself.
David–
I totally agree with your commentary on the presence of sex everywhere. That is the way God meant it to be. Can you imagine the wicked grin and wink God gave after saying, “It is g-o-o-o-o-d!” The mystery is how something that good could ever be lost.
One of the best ways to loose it is to obsess about it: is she going to cum / is she too tired tonight because I am ready / she just told me to quit rubbing her–now does she mean it or is she being coy??
I believe love, like gold, is where you find it. If it happens in the middle of the day, would the gold prospector walk away? If his headlight returned a gleam at midnight, would he keep on walking. It is important to do the “hum, what is that” exploration. Our male problem is we are distracted with too many other things to be sensitive to our curious significant others.
It cuts both ways. Women are even more famous for being distracted. My wife of 32 years was obsessed yesterday with GETTING OUR RENOVATING HOUSE RIGHT!!!!! She cussed at me—-I cussed back. She is getting hard of hearing so I can mumble things now that are really serious: fucking bitch, hard headed cunt, damn slave driver, etc.
I was so tired. I was stumbling and moaning as I attached those damn curtain holders at 7:00 pm. I hardly had any appetite at 8:00 when we finally ate. I wanted to grab her beautiful, almost 60, ass—she wanted to finish sewing the damn curtains!
The previous Valentine's night had been a dream out of a fantisy novel. We ate a candle light grilled steak supper. I had been up at 5 a.m., worked like a dog all day–the project was hanging blinds on the sun room overlooking the Pamlico River. I spent half the day painting and calking. Everything took 3 times as long as I expected. Frustration reigned–she had put up the tools last weekend. Now I can't find the box cutter blades–cuss, cuss. I had bought flowers the night before—she was tired. I even brought her a bottle of champaigne—she drank 2 glasses and was snoring on the couch. What a mess–20 damns!
I had taken a shower before eating. She followed me—complaining the hot water ran out! If any woman wants to wilt your weenie, bitching & moaning is guaranteed to do it! By God, it's Valentines—I just have a challenge ahead.
Question: What is the world's most potent erotic sex killer?
Answer: Wedding Cake!!!
Well, here we are both more tired than we should be. The beautiful Sirrus music on “Love Songs” was playing. She had on her sexy pink jump suit. Her curves were making me hard. My fears were keeping John Henry in his “little Jimmy” mode. Suddenly, as she was cutting excess gauzy material to shorten the curtains, I took a bold step under the conditions (begging a frustrating “shut up you pervert, I need to finish the curtains!”
I said, “Why don't you take off your top and use this piece of curtain instead.”
My GOD–she did it with a smile–ah, there is hope. I can still see by her look she is wondering what porno movie I had been viewing that afternoon. All I had been doing was thinking about what gifts I brought and how good that steak was going to be. “Down, boy, she may turn you away. Her mind is on the beautiful finished cottage and she hates how it looks now. A slave “yowsa” is what she wants to see rather than a request to become the slavemaster of the horny harem wrapped up in one beautiful, sexy woman.
“Would you like to have a back rub?” was my next question. As I applied lotion, her first response was, “That's cold!” My thought was, “It makes your nippies stand up. I am looking as I rub. The beautiful left nipple is erect. It is now in the light rather than demurely covered by the silky curtain. Do I grab it and squeeze going for some sucking? Down, boy, it's not time yet. She is still a little growly.”
I started at her neck and shoulders which are always the worst. Her tensions were easing. Now I move to the lower back. I am rubing my hands with the lotion to warm it and stop the “cold complaining”–by golly, it's working. I want to go for the front and tummy spreading a thick coating on her pussy—down boy (now I'm getting wet, but not hard. There is no Viagra. Damn turning 63!! Damn artheritis & his other cousing ber- and col- !!!
Suddenly, she says, “Would you like me to put lotion on your back?” The first touch let me know how sore my shoulders and lower back were. Maybe that's why John Henry is still Little Jimmy.” Then I said, how about I streatch out on the bed so you can rub my whole back. Oh God, am I getting horny. Miracle: she is smilling with a lusty and genuine grin. Her green eyes are sparkling. She is giving me a serious back rub—far better than the Massage Therapist I used to rely on for comfort. Almost as good as the hot Jacuzzi for 2 we left behind in the old big house.
Then, I asked her the magic question which always tested her southern conservative outlook early in our marriage: “Can I turn over and let you rub my 'tummy.” Old age has taught me NOT to say, “Rub my dick.!” I'm thinkin' it, but this time I'm keeping my big mouth shut. It was telepathic, spiritual, whatever you want to say—she moved closer and closer to “little Jimmy.”
Now I handed her the little bottle of love rub. She took it gladly and spread it on her rough wintertime hands. Needless to say, she got me ready. We were both on our backs entwined. I was rubbing her clit—she was stroking my dick. She was starting those little uncontrollable clinches, wiggles, and pelvic thrusts. I was tired enough not to shoot off in the air. Inside the pussy is so much better and we both get the full load, if you know what I mean.
She had a glorious clit orgasm. In the past I would want to be jacked off. HOWEVER, she hates the smell and mess. God help me if I should shoot off in her mouth. That is grounds—not for divorce—but cruel and slow murder!!! The porno stars are stupid pretenders and liars. Nothing compares to staying in and fillling her full. When I have to hand her a wad of toilet tissue to hold it in or catch it coming out, I know I have done my job.
We have been at it for about 30 minutes which seemed like 3. Now I am ready to get inside that hot hole and have some real fun. Man, it was hot and wet. As I looked at her relaxed smile and listened to her hot, deep breaths, I knew my patience and hard work were going to pay off. Her head is now arching back.
This is when David's magic Vaginal Orgasm obsessed my mind and pecker. I could get down lower than usual and she could spread wide and wrap those thighs around my too large waist (I am on the most serious diet ever cause I want her to wrap aroung me an pull me in with her lower legs and feet. Forget pills, motivate me with vaginal orgasms). After she tires of wrapping my waist, it is time to get deeper.
I took her feet and raised them high. Her epiesiotomy from 2 babies had been painful in the past. Now, with proper long foreplay and gentle step-by-step entrance that uptight butt muscle is relaxing. With feet above head and knees pressed against her boobs, I can feel the end of her cervix and the entrance to her uterus is rubbing against the head of my penis. I think I'm about at heaven's door.
Now she starts gripping me all around my head. The low one dummy!! There is no hand job compared to a woman's Klegel crunches. There is no lubrication like the mix of man and woman juice. There is no temperature more perfect than vagina and penis working together. THERE IS N-O-O-O-O-O feeling like trying to come out and she is pulling you back and pushing to get you a little deeper. O-H-H-H-H-H T-T-T-T-H-H-H-E-E-E-R-R-R-E-E-E I-I-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S-S N-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O F-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-E-L-L-L-L-L-I-I-I-I-I-N-N-N-N-N-N-N-NGGGGGGGGGGGG L-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-K-K-K-K-E-E-E-E-E-E-E C-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O M-M-M-M-M-M-M-M-M-M-M I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I–I-I-I-I-I-I N-N-N-N-N-N-N-N G-G-G-G-G-G T O G H E T H E R with a VAGINAL ORGASIM in our 60's.
David–you haven't taught me all I know, but you sure have helped me help her think in the right direction. Like the little boy commenting on his beautiful young school teacher showing him how to lick an ice cream cone: “I can't say you have it down yet, but I like your thinking!!!”
Dear David,
I am totally believe and trust you,But the most important thing in life is that my
lady is not available for me ,meaning although we are married couple and having a beautiful princess of 4 years at the moment, I never see my reltionship as healthy and normal one. She asked for only twice in almost 10 years since I married her.
Sexually speaking ,she is cold as ice in the south pole and as hard as geranitte stone. I always think about it ???? She never had any bad relationship experience or any truamatic past histroy in her life.. Sometime I asked and all the time I ask my self IS a woam ??? YES SHE IS… why she is not attracted to me ,or love me tha way she shpuld and I want .
As you suffered the same experience in you life .. Give some advice and tips:::
How I can make her LOVE me and how she can be available for me to do what we learn from you in real life practice… It never help me or fruitful how much I know to give her the best and strogest orgasam of her life If she is not let me do it ….
Thanx,
zed
I AND MY BF WANTS TO HAVE SEX BUT WE NEVER HAVE HAD SEX BEFORE CAN U SEND ME SOME TIPS HOW TO DO IT AND IF U HAVE TO HAVE UR CLOTHES ON OR OFF BECUASE WE WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH NO CLOTHES ON BUT WE DON’T WANT A BABY YET UNTI WE ARE OLDER
I’ve become very intrigued in your findings. I am and have always treated woman with the respect they deserve, in many different ways. I have been lucky enough to reconnect with my one true soul mate from over 25 years ago. She is an Amazingly Beautiful Woman in all aspects. I myself have recently separated from a very broken marriage that should of been ended YEARS ago but I tried to live the lie for far to long. My true love is in a very stagnent so called “content” marriage and not happy at all. We have recently allowed our feelings to go full throttle ahead and have had GREAT times together sexually but I am concerned. We have spoken very openly about our likes and dislikes and what we have and have’nt done.
She has truely not been satisfied mind body and soul for far to long, as she allows me to know that it is ok if she doe’snt orgasm. That to me is down right shameful that this amazing woman has not been truly heated to a massive amounts of orgasms.
We are planning our first overnight getaway this weekend (all bases are covered) and since I’ve allowed your findings very intriguing and stimulating for my want to rock her world. I am writing you to allow you to know I will be trying the “clitoral orgasm and the vagina orgasm” with what youve allowed me to see on the videos you have offered.
I want you to know I am truly excited to try this on her and have asked her if she has ever had one of the other, she answered “no”. She has truly been unhappy sexually for far to long and says she is lucky if she reaches orgasm at all. The love I have had in my heart for this woman for all of these years will be coming out very deeply openly and well all over her and I’ve even allowed her to know this, without telling her what I plan. I truly hope if you recieve this short message (yeah rite) before her and I get together. You might be willing to allow me to know what you think a guy who is willing and wanting to Rock her off of her feet might also be able to do for a woman who truly has’nt been satified for far to long? Im a great teaser and have had her very worked up without me reacting upon what is all mine for the taking but will be this weekend.
Thank You, Very Intrigued
@Ron Filbert,
Good luck with that. It could be a tough case that will require a strong lead. Tell us how it goes.
David